Norwegian table manners and Janteloven: rules of conduct for tourists to know when visiting homes and restaurants
Norwegians are known for their modesty and respect for personal space, and these qualities are reflected in their table manners. It is not customary to show off expensive vintage items, but it is important not to be late and to clear your plate. Understanding the local rules is the key to ensuring that any lunch with colleagues, family middag or tasting dinner leaves only warm memories.
What is Janteloven and how does it affect table manners?
Janteloven is an unwritten "law of modesty" formulated by writer Axel Sandemuse. It states: "Don't think you're better than others." In practice, this means not flaunting your wealth, not talking loudly about your achievements, and treating restaurant staff with equal respect. At the table, a calm tone and attention to your conversation partners are valued, rather than displays of status.
What are the rules when invited to a Norwegian home?
- Bring a small gift: flowers, Freia chocolate or a bottle of apple must; it is best to check in advance if alcohol is acceptable.
- Punctuality is important – arriving more than 10 minutes late is considered rude.
- Take your shoes off at the door – most Norwegians wear socks at home.
- The host will say vær så god ("please") – this is your cue to start eating.
- Help clear the plates and thank your host for dinner with the phrase Tusen takk for maten!
How much tip should you leave in restaurants?
Service is included in the bill. It is customary to round up by 5–10% if you enjoyed the service: for example, for a bill of 735 NOK, leave 800 NOK. Cash is rarely used; the terminal will display the option "Legg til tips" (add tip). Tips are not required in self-service cafés.
Is there a dress code in fine dining restaurants?
Most places have a smart casual dress code: jeans are acceptable if they are clean and without holes. A jacket or dress is welcome, but a tie is not required. Outdoor clothing (mountain jackets) should be left in the cloakroom. At tasting dinners (Maaemo, Under), white trainers are fine, but sports trousers are not.
How should I behave with alcoholic beverages?
- The host makes the first toast, Skål!; maintain eye contact and raise your glass slightly.
- Alternate alcohol with water: there is always a jug on the table.
- You are allowed to pour your own alcohol, but offer your neighbour first.
- In bars, it is customary to pay separately (splitte regningen), and this is not considered stingy.
A short "Do & Don't" checklist for tourists
| Do | Don't |
|---|---|
| Be on time | Don't put your elbows on the table while eating |
| Speak quietly, listen to others | Do not discuss income or prices |
| Thank the staff (Takk for maten) | Do not snap your fingers to call the waiter |
| Move your plate to the edge of the table after eating | Do not pile food on your plate at the buffet |
| Offer to help your hosts | Do not discuss politics at the table |
Norwegian table manners are simple: respect, modesty and punctuality. By following the Janteloven principle, you will show your hosts and staff that you value their time and effort. Remember to bring a small gift, speak in a calm tone, and tip generously, and any dinner, from a home-cooked meal to a Michelin-starred restaurant, will be not only a gastronomic but also a cultural discovery.